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The V Monologues

Alright, so

Don’t get me wrong, I think V-Day is great.  Raising awareness in regards to violence against women is never not needed.

I also enjoy the Vagina Monologues as well.  It brings up some uncomfortable truths. And I think everyone needs a bit of that in their lives.

But what about men?  Where is their counterpart? (The Penis Monologues? Someone needs to get on that stuff pronto)  While I am aware there is a piece titled “The Penis Chronicles” (made it early 2000s I think) it doesn’t seem to do what its feminine counterpart does as far as discussing American society’s treatment of genitalia.

I can’t make claims about any other country here, folks.  Not to exclude any other countries or cultures, but the playwright is American. So I shall treat her work as American. Therefore anything I say regarding this play should be seen as an American talking, since that is what I am.  But seriously, I like to have some views on what other people feel about this.

And what about alternate sexual identities? What about trans* people? Where do they fit in?  And what about homosexuals?

There should be more than just the Vagina Monologues.  There should be a counterpart for men and a counterpart for alternate sexual/gender identities/etc.

I mean ideally there would be one event that would cover all of this, but I honestly do think these monologues should exist.

It’s great there’s stuff on women. Bravo.  But in addition to that, there needs to be a fairer representation of women of color.  There needs to be a fairer representation of actual consensual relationships versus the obvious concentration on non-consent/rape/etc.  Also there is one monologue in particular that bothers the hell out of me.  It’s about a female rape of another female.  Not only does it treat this as a fond memory, it puts lesbians / non-heterosexuals in a really negative light.  It also gives rise to the double standard that female rape is fine, but male rape is awful.  (Female rapes of other females, and female rapes of men.  Somehow our society has been stupid enough to treat this as not as threatening or as harmful.)

No no no no no.

So yeah.  I mean, yes, the Vagina Monologues has some good points. But there’s definite parts that need to be cut, or at least heavily edited. 

I am also gung ho about the idea of men and others getting their share of the limelight.  Women’s rights are great, but there needs to be equal representation.  As much as some societies are patriarchal, I still think men should talk candidly about some of the issues surrounding their sexuality.

I’m not talking dick jokes or Viagra, although there could be a good point made about the preoccupation some men have with those things.  I’m talking about serious discussion.

Anyone with me?

cornerof5thandvermouth:

jesus christ people what the hell are you assholes thinking w yr fuckin juvenile-assed dom fantasies

the sub holds all the power

the sub holds all the power

the sub holds all the power

at the slightest word a good dom will immediately stop without complaint

the sub holds the true power because they are the one at risk, they know their limits better than any dom ever will and they ultimately control the situation

a good dom respects safewords

a good dom negotiates scenes well beforehand

a good dom respects a sub’s limits and boundaries

a good dom does not expect a sub to be a sub literally every moment of every day, every submissive needs some kind of break now and again, even the most hardcore lifestylers

a good dom does not coerce

goddammit people do not get yr ideas of D/s relationships from fucking 50 shades alright it is poorly written and poorly researched and dangerous as hell

god

fuck all y’all

(via mayra-quijotesca)

So I was talking to a friend of mine about her first few experiences having sex. According to her, they were pretty interesting.

First off, she and her boyfriend really love and trust each other.  He had had sex with his first girlfriend, so he was coming into the relationship sexually experienced.

He and his ex had also used non-lubricated condoms.

For my friend’s first time, they used non-lubricated condoms. This posed a problem for my friend, because she is very very sensitive.  So of course, the first time “hurt like hell” even though they made sure to use a tube of lubricant.

But that’s not the killer.  The killer is, they used the same box he and his ex used.  Same box of condoms he used for his first time.

I don’t know about you guys, but I think that’s pretty fucked up.  I mean, how hard is it to go to the store and buy a new box of condoms? And lubricated ones, at that? 

Seriously. I mean I can see how he would not want to waste his condoms, but c’mon. It’s a college campus.  I’m sure he could just sell them or give them to someone more than willing to take them.

So I don’t know what the worst part of all that is.  The fact that the condoms were non-lubricated, or the fact he used the same box of condoms for her that he used with his first girlfriend.

That just seems deeply wrong to me.

What do you guys think?

Sex.

So I recently reblogged a post on “slut-shaming” and it got me thinking about sex and judging.

Back when I first learned about sex and anything related to the reproductive systems, I was nauseated and terrified.  I’m “young” for my age - on a slower track than others when it comes to emotional growth.  So when girls were having sex at thirteen, fourteen, sixteen, I was horrified. 

What the heck were they thinking?!

Sex is such a big deal - I judged them for this.  There was no malice in my judgement … I think there was just this mixture of fear and empathy for them, along with a healthy dose of revulsion towards sex and relief that I wasn’t engaging in such activities.

This is my opinion - I mean no disrespect.  I honestly believe that if you’re in grade school, you’re too young to have sex.  Yes, even high school.  Especially high school. Drama-filled hormonal horny angsty emotional people trying to find their feet during those four cutthroat transitional years have enough on their plate without adding sex to the mix.  Your maturity level doesn’t really have a say in this … what I’m concerned with is your brain’s maturity level.  I don’t care how worldly you are - if you’re sixteen, that’s probably too young.

Hell, college is no different.  And maybe I have too much faith in college students - but I think they’re slightly more equipped to handle the responsibilities and pressures that come with having sex. 

Any thoughts?